Basic Bitches

As an introvert I often joke that if I didn't do the job I do, I would despise the human race. However, because I am immersed in the darkest corners of a lot of peoples minds I understand the layering and experiences they have as they strive to get better. So that probably means I only despise the people who know better and choose not to do better.
Hahaha I am only kind of kidding. Maybe. Probably not actually. 

The easiest route in life is to remain basic. You do not have to push back against your family, friends, or peers. You can let other people think for you and gravitate towards people who tend to do the same. Questioning the foundations of your deeply held belief systems and habits makes you deconstruct your life, and though it will lead you to a much happier, more fulfilled and mindful life, you will go through some pretty grueling moments of self hatred.
On the flip side, if you choose to stay the same as the world around you, deep down, you will feel a sense of unease. Because your essence, whether that be soul or spirit, knows that you are not living your best life. Perhaps this has to do with the levels of anxiety and depression these days. People are largely living unfulfilled. 

If you are thinking about the idea of deconstructing an area of your life and are dealing with the turmoil that comes with ending a friendship/s, changing jobs, having a hard family discussion, questioning your religious or political beliefs there is only one thing you really need to know and that is this: 
THE ONLY PERSON THAT NEEDS TO BE OKAY WITH YOUR DECISIONS IS YOU. 

This means that you understand and have reflected on the repercussions of your decision and are ok with them. As a mental exercise imagine explaining why you made the decisions you made to the people that you love. Being ok with them can mean that you know that you will mourn it, or that you will be angry, or that you will be happy, and that you are allowed to have all those emotions and take your time with them. Discomfort and emotional roller coasters are a huge part of the human experience. That does not mean that we must always be uncomfortable or always be immersed in drama, but rather that we are willing to dive deep into recognizing the consequences of our habits, actions, and reactions to do better the next time. 

I have a ton of tips and tools to offer you about how to be in that place or support the transition you want to make in your life and one of them is of course breath work.

But there is some prep work we need to do before we begin BW so let's start here: 
Sit down and pick an area of life in which you are questioning the validity of. 
Write down how it feels to you know and then write out how you want it to feel. 

​That is all. Simple awareness around what you are feeling and what you want to feel. Stay tuned for more tools that can support you through this process.